Blindness…

Ok, so we all know about the most obvious kind; where someone either is born without the ability to see with their eyes, or something happens later in life, either through illness or injury, to cause them to lose the ability to see with their eyes.  But did you know that there are other kinds of ‘blindness’ that someone can suffer from?

I will attempt to illustrate several other types of ‘blindness’ that one might incur through sheer innocence or through purposeful ignorance.

The first one, that being the innocent kind, would be something like being being blinded by emotions.  For example, falling in love with someone who on the outside seems to be very genuine and whole-heartedly on a similar path or at least having the same interests and goals as you do.  Another one might be meeting up with someone whom appears to share a lot of common interests as you do; or even milestones or common experiences in each of your lives that are similar so as to create a bond of one sort or another.  In both of these situations, the one is bound to the other emotionally on one level or another; only to be completely and utterly abandoned for one reason or another, without warning or explanation of any sort.  So ultimately, there weren’t really a true friend to begin with, they were simply a ‘user’ of sorts.

The second one, that being the purposeful ignorant kind, are those who get involved in relationships on purpose knowing full well the reasoning behind the other’s motives for the friendship in the first place but choose to ignore and turn a blind eye to the motives of the other.  Even if they know they might get hurt somehow in the end, but don’t care.  This kind of blindness can be dangerous for both sides.  On the one hand, the one being ignorant can take risks that are unnecessary just to keep the friendship alive; while the other can be hurt by not ever knowing what true friendship is, or how it should be; not to mention it is just downright unhealthy.

What I propose is for those of you who engage in either of these two types of blindness, to get your proverbial ‘eyes’ checked; whether that is your heart or your mind’s eye, you need to get as close to ‘20/20 vision’ as you possibly can when it comes to relationships.  It’s like if you were to wear blinders while driving, even in a familiar area that you know like the back of your own hand…you can still crash into something and be injured or hurt…emotionally and mentally.  So take the blinders off, look around and take in all of the sights.  Get to know the other person, let them get to know the real you also…there are no ‘one way streets’ in friendships; life is a highway, but when you occasionally take an off-ramp long enough to meet someone that seems to be headed in the same direction you are goin’ …carpool won’t you?  Share the ride, enjoy the company, we are all never truly alone.  Even on a dark and seemingly empty ’street’, there is always the next town where life is happening.  Who knows, there might be someone waiting there that you never expected to find; waiting there to lead the way and give you the grand tour; of which you will have your eyes, heart and mind wide open to all that is available!!

Thanks for reading and remember to take the blinders off, you’ll be glad you did!!