Life Drama vs. Dramatic Life…

ok, so here is the kunundrum…life that has become one big drama after another that is perpetrated by the one living it; verses having a life that is for the most part, normal by most standards with the occasional dramatic situation coloring one’s experience.

I personally prefer the latter; see, it to me adds a lil bit of spice to what would normally be somewhat plain and unexciting.  For some, however, seem to need the draw and pull of something a lil more over-exaggerated and over-the-top to feel alive and thriving.  I haven’t been able to figure out what the common thread is for those people; but I hope to soon.

So first, lets look to the first scenario shall we; namely “Life Drama“.  When you find that your life has become one big drama after the other; why not step back a lil and examine why it has?  Maybe you can figure out what you can do to lessen the frequency with which it tends to happen, or just not give certain situations as much power or influence as they seem to have over your overall life.  Decide to let the seemingly littler things go quicker so that they don’t take on a life of their own and overshadow your life as a whole.  This would be my recommendation to those who have a constant roll of drama after drama on a daily basis and feel empty when one isn’t in play at the moment.

Now, we’ll gander into the second one, namely “Dramatic Life“. This is the one I personally prefer.  See, this one allows most to have the life that most prefer, but adds that lil element that pushes us to occasionally step out of our personal comfort zone, experience something new, learn from it, and grow from it and then let us step back into our normal path with a lil extra something that we didn’t have before so that when we continue down our life path, we have more parameters than before to help us make wiser decisions and also to help others in similar situations.  A way, so-to-speak, to discard the ‘blinders’ and walk around with total sight.  To me, that sounds much better then living in a self-contained, overly-dramatic soap-opera lifestyle that drags us in every chance it gets and doesn’t allow us to see what’s goin’ on around us as much as we should or would want to if we were to be able to even have a taste of that experience for ourselves.

So…you all tell me; which would you rather have?  Life Drama, or a Dramatic Life… you choose; comment on the post and tell me what you think ok! Ciao for now!

Just my two cents…now go and make it into nickels and dimes of your own!

So, i’m gonna attempt to catch up to what has been goin on as of late.  Well, since I’ve been back from my sisters house in Nevada, and moving her and her family to Scio, OR; I’ve been one busy gal [lol].  One of the more enjoyable things I’ve been doing is volunteering in my church’s Boy Scout Pack and Troop by being a Merit Badge Counselor for 15 Merit Badges!  And a residual thing that has sprung from that volunteering is opening up an account with http://www.classb.com to design some troop and pack and so forth tee-shirts for fun mostly; but now, I have almost 100 shirts…when one or two ideas come to me, it is usually followed by a dozen or so more, most of the time, more.

Something else that I’ve been busy with is helping a friend I chat with online since last winter who is from Missouri.  We usually talk about things that I won’t mention in this venue, but needless to say, it is talked about in more a semi-clinical point of view then discussed in a cras and disgusting manner; so put your eyes back in your head and close your mouths everyone ok…now, something else I’ve been doing while chatting with her is helping her face some of her major demons; those things which haunt her and torment her daily.  She is showing more proactive interest in the church, however, I don’t wish to push her for I know she will pull away if I do for something as important as this.  According to her, she has actually been thinking about this for some time now; but she never really had any one whom she felt this comfortable with while talking about such things, and now she does.  So I’m glad that she does feel comfortable discussing these things with me, so I can help her in what ever way that I can.  She has many concernes and fears and latent demons that she is trying to exorcise from her psyche, but it is a long process.  She started going to therapy to discuss some nerve damage in  her hand and how it affected her writing music and playing the guitar; something she desperately loves, but because of the nerve damage, is unable to really and truly enjoy it currently, for she can barely play the fretboard fingerings right now.  So, in our last conversation, I mentioned that she should seek after other avenues to regain back the feeling in her hand so that playing the music she loves and prefers, can once again be fully enjoyed to her hearts content!  She still seems resistent, but I’m still hopeful that she’ll come around.  Time will only tell.  This lovely woman I call sister and friend is so very talented, that I can only hope that she finds it within her to have some faith in the miracle she seeks to be able to play once again and to dazzle all who hear her music!

Love ya hon, stay strong!

So…what doesconstitute “Good Parenting”?  Some people, it appears, seem to feel that being your children’s ‘friend’ will make you a ‘good parent’; however, what does that really promote?  Is it a priority to be this first and foremost in your child’s life rather then someone who instills discipline and a sense of responsibility in them as they learn and grow.  It is my belief that one of the top priorities as a parent must be, of course, teach the basics; but also, a few other rather important and integral details; such as learning coping skills with many different life situations, interaction skills with many different kinds of people, the always obvious right from wrong according to your perception of the generally accepted standard laws and rules of everyday life.  How about the concept of providing the best example possible of what generally acceptable values are in today’s world?  it is my feeling that this is one of the most important thing a parent can do to help their child or children to grow to be a well adjusted and developed, intelligent and conscientious person. 

Now while I believe that it is important to teach the children good values, and skills in coping and all that I have mentioned above; I also don’t believe it is the most important concept to be our children’s ‘friend’ while sacrificing good parenting skills; that doesn’t mean however, that we shouldn’t extend our gentle and kind side to our children as a way of helping our children gaining a certain amount of trust in our parenting skills and administration of stability as an adult figure in their lives.  Something else that should be important as a parent; I feel it is best to customize our parenting to each child’s needs.  We aren’t human manufacturing devices that create ‘cookie cutter’ children; so we shouldn’t treat them all the same.  We each have a responsibility as adults, parent or not, to be the best example we possibly can, you just never know when a child will be within ear or eyeshot of what you are doing and decide to emulate what you do. 

Thanks for reading, be sure to check yourself and provide the best example possible.

D R E A M S…

What are they? Does everyone have them? What do they mean? Why do we have them? Do we have to dream? These are all timeless questions asked by many people with regards to dreams. I’ll attempt to uncover some interesting facts and you can make the decision on your own. Dreams are an inward reflection of things in the waking world that have gone unresolved, cause for concern, fantasies, pure imagination, subjective analogies to an issue happening in your life, or manifestations of deep rooted anxieties. For things that have gone unresolved; you must decided what symbology might have been used in your dream; such as a pink zebra doesn’t mean necessarily that you will have an encounter with an actual pink zebra. You have to determine what the pink zebra might mean in your daily life; what it might represent. Your dreams might be showing hidden things in the waking world that you aren’t fully aware of otherwise to try to bring your attention to something that is very important. Dreams can be pure fantasy where the individual is consumed with thoughts of a particular target person and thus is influenced to have a dream about that individual or group of people. Some people dream of projects or events that they are involved with as the planning process. Dreams also can play a part in an individuals recall of a past event or other emotionally charged event. Dreams can also play a special spiritual role to each individual as well. As a spiritual tool, the individual may have a positively sacred or spiritual dream where it is a warning, an answer to a sincere prayer, or any other way God should choose to communicate with his Earth-bound mortal children. Dreams are a very important tool and personal way to gain insight to one’s own psyche. If you use this gift as a tool, it can be a very lovely thing as you solve the daily problems, receive inspiration, reflection of daily life living, etc. so to answer all of those questions from the beginning: they are reflective manifestations of our own capabilities, they are a personal manner in which to recharge our spiritual and physical and mortal batteries, they are a way to plan out a approach to life’s many ups and downs. Thanks for reading and keep dreaming!!